The first article I read "Five Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job!" by Alfie Kohn. The author explains different reasons why he thinks loving and making your child feel good is very different from praise.
Praise will work in the short run because children just want approval from their parents when they are young. Overexploiting this idea will eventually make kids feel manipulated.
Kids will start relying on their parent's evaluations too much if they are praised for every little thing. It's damaging for a child in the long run because when they grow up, they will still feel the need to hear whether what they did was ok from others.
Overpraise will make affect how a child feels when they actually achieve something for themselves. They will not appreciate actual achievements if they are constantly getting praise for anything they do.
Children will lose interest in whatever they have to do because they know they'll get praise or rewarded for whatever they do. They will develop a fixed mindset which will stop them from being creative.
The author believes that we should say nothing, say what we saw, or talk less and ask more when a child does something impressive.
I agree with what the author has to say about overpraising kids but I don't believe we should say nothing to them if they do something impressive. I think some kids try a lot to make their parents proud, so saying nothing could also have a negative effect on them.
The second article I read was "How to Give Feedback Without Sounding Like a Jerk" by Adam Grant. This article teaches us how to make our criticism feel constructive.
If we explain why we are giving feedback, people are less likely to feel as if they are being attacked. Showing that you care personally, will help people to accept that they are being challenged.
You should never look down on people or make them feel inferior when giving feedback as this will make them feel threatened.
We can always ask people if they are willing to receive some feedback. If they are open to the idea of criticism, they are less likely to get defensive.
I really liked this article because I learned a lot about giving feedback. I think I'll be more confident when giving feedback to people in the future. Before reading this article, I was a little unsure how to give feedback without offending the person. When giving feedback to a person I would recommend to express gratitude towards the person. It lets a person know you would expect the same motivation from them in the future. I think feedback strategies are very important because it teaches people how to improve themselves and how to learn from their mistakes.
We can always ask people if they are willing to receive some feedback. If they are open to the idea of criticism, they are less likely to get defensive.
I really liked this article because I learned a lot about giving feedback. I think I'll be more confident when giving feedback to people in the future. Before reading this article, I was a little unsure how to give feedback without offending the person. When giving feedback to a person I would recommend to express gratitude towards the person. It lets a person know you would expect the same motivation from them in the future. I think feedback strategies are very important because it teaches people how to improve themselves and how to learn from their mistakes.
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Interesting Feedback Articles
Five Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job!" by Alfie Kohn
How to Give Feedback Without Sounding Like a Jerk by Adam Grant
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